I am a professional, independent, the Muslim woman. I give lectures internationally on self-esteem and self-empowerment for women. I am for the education of Muslim women and non-Muslim as well known about the importance of fitness and weight for your health. But for the duration of this "rant" my "article". I want everything on your side. This is purely about the aesthetics of being fit.
As I said, I bought my skinny jeans to Fit Muslimah Fans Facebook page, I hadan avalanche of comments indicating that I was promoting the haram and how Muslim women should not wear skinny jeans because they are too narrow and so on have been 15 comments posted in the first 20 minutes. The sad part is not just the fact that Muslims have been so judgmental and assuming the worst at once (this is an article for another day). The saddest is that none of these women even thought of these observations, the husbands. (Many thanks to the three women who in reality by the thoughtMen)
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It can be really good for a minute. I'm going, no matter how many times a day a Muslim man praying in the mosque and he is still a man. We meet as Muslim women, because we know that the woman's body is attractive to men. We cover our bodies, because modesty is a way to reduce the "Fitna" between men and women in society. We cover not only against non-Muslim men, but men are also the Muslims. So there is no doubt that Muslim women are treated as "normal people" withDesires.
We are blessed, men who fear Allah and stand back, have their looks and their sexual desires until marriage. And to be honest, I am often with Muslim women who irritates these pious men, of course. Too often we ignore their humanity, to justify our laziness. We put a crutch on their fear of Allah and the desire of the afterlife, instead of trying to help, their life with joy in this world with beautiful women.
"The United KingdomTelegraph that scientists have found that the strongest attribute that attracts males for a woman living next to the report, that is, as women with a life that go inside, and also that go (think of is: Christina Hendricks Marilyn Monroe). The researchers said this particular study, the relationship that a guy has really worked a lifetime, hips about 70 percent of the women's actions. In addition, the researchers found that women with this specific hip liferatio drew men in, regardless of her breast size. Jessica Alba, Marilyn Monroe and Victoria's Secret model Alessandra Ambrosio were deemed to have the "perfect" body by the men participating in this particular project."
Yeah, yeah,yeah, our husbands should love us for our inner beauty. But when he makes love to you he's not loving your inner beauty, he's making love to your body and that my dear is all about the pleasures of the flesh. And I don't mean the extra amount hanging on your belly.
Now I don't claim to be an expert on men, but I do know this. If you have a husband (or want a husband) who is from a western country, ever spent time in a western country, or even a watching American TV and movies then he's been exposed to the western idea of beauty. That is a woman who is hourglass shape with smooth, toned body. That doesn't mean she has to be a size zero. That means no matter what size she is she needs to maintain a healthy weight and keep her body fit. Even men who like "big girls" don't want "sloppy fat".
If you live in a western country and your husband ever leaves the house for any reason then he sees, half dressed non-Muslim women every single day, who are attractive and seductive. Then he comes home to a beautiful Muslim wife... in a sweat suit claiming she has to be comfortable to vacuum the floor and change a diaper. And like a God loving man, he probably doesn't say anything because we have somehow perpetuated this myth that a Muslim man is somehow less holy if he wants to see his wife in something sexy. Even worse, we have perpetuated an even bigger myth that wanting to be sexy is somehow haram, or imitating the non-Muslim. "HOGWASH, HOGWASH, HOGWASH"
Being sexy is an essential part to being a woman. There is nothing haram about embracing your femininity, feeling desired, and wanting to be wanted. These things are not contradictory to be a Muslim woman, they are in fact the very foundation of our principles of modesty. We teach our girls to cover because "Allah said so" when in fact the commandment to cover is not without reason or foundation. Once a Muslim woman understands and embraces the beauty, sexual power and strength of her femininity then she better understands why covering her physical beauty is that much more important. She knows that withholding the power of her sensuality, allows the power of her mind and her personality to shine that much brighter. You cannot know the full essence of being a Muslim woman until you get to know all the powers we hold.
I heard Sheik Muhammad Said Adly say in a lecture, "The Muslim woman in public should be the most pious woman in the world but in private with her husband she should be worse than the non-Muslim women". I for one believe he hit it right on the head. In the privacy of our home we should be the epitome of our husbands' desires, satisfying his spiritual, emotional AND physical needs. We need to get off our butts and make the effort to lose weight and get in shape to make his life easier and more pleasurable.
We quote all these Hadiths about pleasing our husbands when they suit us. But when we don't want to pass by the Hogendaz aisle then we have selective memory. We want to please our husbands until it means we have sacrifice our time, energy or effort on anything that we don't want to do, like exercise or diet. I for one feel sorry for the man who has to come home everyday to find his wife in a sweat suit, Abaya or her "comfortable" clothes. I feel even sorrier for the woman he's coming home to, because she has not gotten over herself to think about her husband.
The bottom line is this. All Muslim women need to get in shape for their husbands or future husbands. Muslim women should embrace their sexuality and learn the art of seduction. Because it is with these two things that we will help our husbands lower their gaze and guard their modesty even more. Yes every Muslim woman should have a pair of "skinny" jeans because they are a reminder how fit or fat you are. And every Muslim wife shouldtreat her husband to watching her fold clothes, vacuum the floor and washing dishes in her skinny jeans. --- And if it's a girl, name her Mubarakah J
May Allah forgive me if I said anything wrong and guide us all to the suratal mustakeen - Ameen
Every Muslim Woman Should Have a Pair of Skinny Jeans: In Defense of the Muslim Man
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